February 9, 2020
One of the messages that the media/education system tries very hard to spread and ingrain is that having children is somehow something that ends one’s life and turns existence into some kind of slavery that removes all of the freedoms and pleasures of the adult world from people’s reach.
It turns out that the people who ignore that message and produce lots of kids tend to be happier because of it.
A couple who planned to have just a few children but went on to have ten offspring, have insisted that it’s the best thing ever to happen to them.
Cassanda, 32, and Jacob Morrise, 35, from Utah, who laughingly remember feeling they had ‘enough children to last a lifetime,’ when they reached two, revealed they kept changing their minds and only felt their family was complete when baby number ten was born in July 2019.
The couple’s huge brood includes two sets of twin boys, who were born one after the other.
And there is only one girl among all the siblings, their ninth child Lily, who was born in April 2018.
Entrepreneur Jacob has a business designing and selling household gadgets in 2018, meanwhile Cassanda is a stay-at-home mother.
The mechanical entrepreneur said: ‘I wouldn’t change having such a big family for the world. By baby number two we thought we’d had enough. But turns out we hadn’t, and it was the best decision we ever made.
It should come as no surprise that doing a good job at reproduction would make someone happy. After all, reproducing is perhaps the strongest need present in all living organisms.
But we live in a culture that shuns offspring while it celebrates engaging in the means to produce it.
Everyone’s obsessed with having sex but not with having a big family.
‘At the end of the day, we’re just normal parents who happen to have 10 kids. Yes, the fact we have 10 might make us slightly less normal, but we love each and every one of them just the same.
‘We do get the odd comments like, “You’ve got your hands full”, or, “You must be some sort of day care center”.
‘And some people say we’re irresponsible for having so many kids, but we just brush the comments off.’
Raising Steven, 10, Christopher, nine, identical twins William and Ryan, both seven, non-identical twins Spencer and Max, both five, Thomas, four, Henry, three, Lily, one, and Peter, six months, efficiently, but with plenty of love and affection, has made Cassanda confident she has the experience to give fellow parents solid advice.
‘People just assume we’ve got a bunch of unruly kids who rule the roost, because there’s so many of them – but that’s just not the case,’ said Cassanda, who launched her blog with Jacob in June 2019.
‘Being part of such a large family is actually good preparation for children, as they have to learn how to compromise and deal with different personalities. It’s actually made our children better behaved.
Contrary to popular belief, it’s better for kids to interact with other kids on a daily basis than to interact with glowing screens in solitude.
It should be common sense, but nowadays nothing common makes sense.
‘The blog offers advice to other parents and also gives us a way to document all the memories we make.
‘I try and keep it real, but I also put a positive spin on every day and if one other mother can benefit from reading about how I stay on top of my laundry routine, then it’s worthwhile.’
The couple who are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints faith, which permits contraception, but encourages big families, claim that having a big family can be easier than just having a couple of children.
Cassanda said: ‘I speak to people who have one or two kids and they’re like, ‘I have to entertain my kids and play with them all the time.’ I’m like, ‘Well, I don’t.’
‘We’ve got so many children that they entertain and play with each other. We’re also really lucky because the older kids dote on the younger ones.’
Jacob and Cassanda met at Brigham Young University in Idaho in January 2008. They embarked on a whirlwind romance and tied the knot in August the same year, and have revealed having such a big brood was not their initial plan.
That is healthy and natural.
Parents are supposed to be parents, not clowns.
‘I write lots of tips about how to stay on top of chores and how to run a household with so many children,’ Cassanda said.
‘When it comes to mealtimes, I like to be organised and I make a monthly meal plan, so everyone knows what they’re getting in advance.
‘Our kids aren’t fussy, and they don’t have any allergies either, so dinner times aren’t so bad – we keep it simple and cook lots of soups, or pizza, enchiladas and salads.’
And the self-professed ‘thrifty’ shoppers only spend $250 per week to feed all 12 of them.
‘We’re savvy shoppers and save coupons or buy things on discount,’ Cassanda said. ‘Sometimes, people think we’re having some sort of party and always ask ‘Why do you need so many bananas?”
I wonder if “because I have ten kids to feed” would be a more shocking response than “because I’m vegan and eat about 50 bananas a day in order to not die from veganism” nowadays.
Those are breast implants, by the way
Monthly meal plans are actually a good idea even for people who have no kids to feed though.
Also, the seven oldest children are expected to help with the household chores.
Cassanda said: ‘They have to do one chore every day.
‘They each get given a room they have to tidy. It shouldn’t take them longer than 10 minutes, because it’s just picking toys up or wiping down the sides – it’s not a deep clean.
‘Some of the kids are done within 10 minutes, but others can take half an hour, because they spend most of the time crying about how hard it is!‘
That’s true for adults in general too.
The average American gives up on their new year’s resolutions by February 1, according to a recent study.
Doing stuff is hard, goy. Staying still is easier.
Why work hard on your big family and on your new year’s resolutions when you can just sit back, relax, and enjoy some Netflix?